“Be curious, not judgmental.”
– Walt Whitman
Its a simple quote, but an important one.
We have all had our moments when we judge someone.
I am guilty of judging others and giving my opinion on the matter thinking I know all the facts – when i don’t.
Judging not only leave you feeling gross inside, it is hurtful to the person you are judging.
Would you say it to their face if they were in front of you? Most of us would answer no to that question. Imagine they found out what you really thought about them….the fake smile you offer them wouldn’t come across as sweet.
Are you cringing at the thought?
Most of us aren’t as good at hiding our judgement as we think. Most people can sense your judgement. They will withdraw themselves from you – no one likes being judged.
People judge and snarl at the actions and thoughts of others, but who are we to say how it all goes?
If it impacts our life, then we need to speak up.
Most of us speak up behind their back – we call someone and gossip.
This isn’t helpful to anyone.
If you need to judge or gossip to have a friendship with a certain person- then that’s not a healthy relationship.
Most judging stems from jealousy. Sometimes we actually admire the person we are judging – but instead of giving them credit or taking a minute to see what we like about them, or what it is about them that we want- we smash them down to feel better about ourselves.
Most judgement stems from not understanding another persons situation and judging it instead of trying to help them or understand their situation.
I understand people need to grow and we all change, we all become better versions of ourselves and we all act in a way we wish we didn’t.
But lets stop judging people.
Especially the ones that were there for you when no one else was.
We should look into why people do things, before immediately judging them. Be curious, not judgmental.
Mother Teresa Nailed it with this quote –
At the end of it all – we want to love and be loved.
I choose love.
I choose peace.
Until next time – Make it a great day xx