Women don’t break Women

One thing I am passionate about is empowering other women and seeing other women empowered. I think it’s such a beautiful sight. Women such as Oprah, Reese Witherspoon, Bethany Frankel, Martha Stewart, Joan Rivers (may she RIP), Melissa Rivers, Yolanda Foster – my list could go on and on but its almost midnight and I am picking some from the top of my head.

Women with Class, elegance and confidence. Influential women that do good with their leadership platform.

Sometimes we don’t even know who we are motivating or empowering, while we carry on with our daily lives……and sometimes, someone motivates us and they don’t even realise unless we tell them (always try and compliment the source of your motivation).

Recently a close friend (or so I thought) had some horrible things to say, about me. She didn’t realise it at the time…. that what she truly thought about me and probably has thought about me for the twenty something years of our friendship came out… then when she tried to fix what she had said, she made it worse by complimenting me on something I don’t see as a compliment…. and she knew that. Its like she knew it was hurting me but she couldn’t stop.

I didn’t end up sleeping that night until very late, so much on my mind, so many questions of WHY? Why would a woman sit in front of me while I had oxygen on, knowing my past, knowing my battles, knowing my pains and break me down by saying things that related to the areas in my life I don’t like and try to improve? Why?

People envy other peoples lives, they see all the wonderful parts of it, they often over look the other things that come with that package, they miss the trials and the hurdles, they miss the hard roads that had to be walked before things were good.

We all have battles, we all have HARD in our life…. We all have something we deal with and struggle with…. and we often share it with the ones we trust with the unspoken promise that it will never be used against us or repeated in our moment of vulnerability

I’m a  little sick and tired of some women playing the “my life sucks” card. It pisses me off. We all make decisions, we must live with the consequences of the decisions we made and make.

Sacrifices are made and decisions we have to live with are made to get to where we want to be, but I’m seeing it alot……, people screw up and make bad decisions and then look around them bitching and envying the people that made the sacrifices when they had to.

I don’t hate my friend for what she did, the horrible passive aggressive words she used, I feel sorry for her… I don’t think she realised that I wont stand for being her drop in punching bag anymore.

You cant help people who are drowning by letting them pull you into the pool.

Women don’t break other women, Women don’t put other women down to feel on top.

I give myself permission to walk away and surround myself with love and women who dont break other women.

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11 Responses to Women don’t break Women

  1. Good choice! I’m glad you have a strong voice now and can share it with others. Thank you, and I’m sorry for the pain that lady caused you, but you are on the road to healing…

  2. Aplauding you here!! And I would add men to this list too.
    Have been through the same with a male friend.
    Let them find their strength alone and wish them well!

  3. Adrianna says:

    You’re so right. And she blew it

  4. lbeth1950 says:

    Smart lady. Lose the friend who cut you down. Friends don’t do that. You deserve better.

  5. blkkat49 says:

    True friends have your back no matter what. Even disagreements are handled with diplomacy because the friendship is given top priority. You seem to have come through this with gracefully. I admire your strength. A very refreshing post.

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