A thousand words

Today I found a movie on Netflix. I like Eddie Murphy, so I knew I would love it. It’s not a recent movie, not sure how I missed this one.

Eddie Murphy plays the role of an agent called Jack. A fast paced bullshit artist with money on his mind. He isn’t very nice.

Eddie Murphy has some sort of spell olaced on him where this tree mysteriously appears in his backyard. 

Each time he speaks a leaf falls off. One word costs one leaf. When the tree dies, he dies. 


I don’t want to give too much away, but it is a movie you will want to see. 

It’s eye opening and touching, it’s life changing.

If you lost a leaf each time you spoke- would you hold more value for each word you spent?

For those that are going to watch it- enjoy. 

I’d love to hear what you think. 

Until next time, make it a great day x

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Song a Day – Thanks Sandra

I was invited by Sandra from “A Momma’s View” to join the Song a day Challenge.

I’m not a fan of the challenges as I struggle to stick to the requirements.

But….I love Sandra and I love music. So, I’m going to give it a go.

Sandra knows I went to see Adele and how much I said I loved her in my recent post Adele in Sydney – but I have so many other songs that have won my heart, sorry Adele.

The rules are:

  • Post a song a Day for five consecutive days
  • Post what the lyrics mean to you ( optional)
  • Post the name of the song and video 
  • Nominate two different bloggers each day of the challenge.

I’m going to post all five songs all at once and nominate five bloggers at once also.

Get ready to fall in love with some great songs.

  1.  Ed Sheeran – Save Myself. 

I love this song, someone close to me called me and told me to listen to the lyrics. I related to it (minus the out-of-date prescription pills).

I often try to help people that wouldn’t do the same for me.

I must admit, this song helped me make a decision to take the time I need to save myself.

So before I save someone else, I’ve got to save myself

 

2. Ed Sheeran – Supermarket Flowers

This song was written about his grandmother when they were packing up the hospital.

The part of the song that gets me crying every time is:

So I’ll sing Hallelujah
You were an angel in the shape of my mum
When I fell down you’d be there holding me up
Spread your wings as you go
And when God takes you back we’ll say Hallelujah
You’re home

 

3. Pentatonix – Hallelujah

I love Pentatonix and have for a while. This song gives me chills and I could listen to it non-stop… actually I have. Something about this song makes my heart sing.

 

4. Sia – Bird Set Free

This song is a real motivation boosting song. I really love it.

My favorite lyrics from the song are –

Had a voice, had a voice but I could not sing

But there’s a scream inside that we all try to hide
We hold on so tight, we cannot deny
Eats us alive, oh it eats us alive, oh

I’m not gon’ care if I sing off key
I find myself in my melodies
I sing for love, I sing for me
I shout it out like a bird set free

 

And Lucky Last

5. Donna Taggart – Jealous of the Angels

Over time I’ve had to say good bye to loved ones and I constantly think about my grand mother. I feel this son puts it well – I miss her and wish I could have a chance to say a final goodbye. It reminds me of the day she passed, it was very sudden.

Surpise, Suprise…..This is another song with the word hallelujah in it.

I’m noticing a theme as I put this list together lol

Prayin’ you’d just walk back through that door
And tell me that I was only dreamin’

 

I hope you enjoy my selection of songs.

Now I get to nominate five lucky bloggers –

Forgiving Journal

Flying Through Water

Ritu – But I smile Anyway

Barb – Sane Teachers

Send Sunshine

Until next time – Make it a great day xx

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Don’t judge me

“Be curious, not judgmental.”
– Walt Whitman
Its a simple quote, but an important one.
We have all had our moments when we judge someone.
I am guilty of judging others and giving my opinion on the matter thinking I know all the facts – when i don’t.
Judging not only leave you feeling gross inside, it is hurtful to the person you are judging.
Would you say it to their face if they were in front of you? Most of us would answer no to that question. Imagine they found out what you really thought about them….the fake smile you offer them wouldn’t come across as sweet.
Are you cringing at the thought?
Most of us aren’t as good at hiding our judgement as we think. Most people can sense your judgement. They will withdraw themselves from you – no one likes being judged.
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People judge and snarl at the actions and thoughts of others, but who are we to say how it all goes?
If it impacts our life, then we need to speak up.
Most of us speak up behind their back – we call someone and gossip.
This isn’t helpful to anyone.
If you need to judge or gossip to have a friendship with a certain person- then that’s not a healthy relationship.
Most judging stems from jealousy. Sometimes we actually admire the person we are judging – but instead of giving them credit or taking a minute to see what we like about them, or what it is about them that we want- we smash them down to feel better about ourselves.
Most judgement stems from not understanding another persons situation and judging it instead of trying to help them or understand their situation.
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I understand people need to grow and we all change, we all become better versions of ourselves and we all act in a way we wish we didn’t.
But lets stop judging people.
Especially the ones that were there for you when no one else was.
We should look into why people do things, before immediately judging them. Be curious, not judgmental.
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Mother Teresa Nailed it with this quote –
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At the end of it all – we want to love and be loved.
I choose love.
I choose peace.
Until next time – Make it a great day xx
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Adele in Sydney ❤

Mum called me towards the end of last year and announced that Adele was coming to Australia and she really wanted to go. I’ve attended other events with mum and I know she only comes to me with the shows that she truely wants to see with all her heart. We enjoy making memories together.

For Christmas I got mum a ticket and one for myself. I wasn’t keen on it at first- I didn’t know much about Adele and I was pretty sure I only knew “hello” and “someone like you” so I wasn’t looking forward to is as much as she was. 

Admittedly I woke up yesterday morning (the day of the show) sick as ever, there’s nothing I could have done to prevent that…. my lungs don’t always cooperate with my diary. 

I pulled my shit together and my husband insisted on driving me to the show that the media kept promoting not to drive to. This allowed me to charge my portable oxygen machine in the car as we drove and gave me more time on it. He took us to dinner and dropped us off with plans to come back for me at the end of the show. (He’s got my back)

Mum and I got a shirt as a memobilia of the show. It was mums gift to me. 


We got to our seats and eagerly waited with our hot beverage for the show to begin. 

Can I please say, I love Adele. 

I will wear my shirt with pride.

I respect her and honestly fell in love with her transparency and realness, she’s humble.

I can’t stand the kardashian bullshit that is fucking up our world and future generation, so the realness of Adele was so nice to see. She’s not another celebrity that’s all messed up from the fame.

I loved her songs, her passion, her need to swear when she’s nervous,  her time that she gave the massive crowd of 95,000 people. We got to know her, she let us love her and she sent love back.

Adele is a another strong woman, another person who can heal the world and touch the world in massive numbers with their voice and their message. 

Lastnight it hit me, we all have a story/message and we have unique talents that keeps nagging at us to do something with it- we can all serve the world and make it a better place to live. It may not be 95,000 people at once, but we all touch people’s lives and bring out the best in them, like a domino effect. 

My message today for you is to keep it real. You will find your crowd,


Until next time, make it a great day! xx

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The Book of Joy

I recently started reading a book called The Book of Joy.

What a book!

Its a book of conversations between the Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu – the conversations are recorded and written by Douglas Abrams.

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I have enjoyed every page I have read so far, out of the 300 something paged book I’ve read 80 so far and I honestly cant get enough.

The quotes are life changing, they are quotes and conversations that you will carry on with you forever and I will share some as I write about the book further down the track. At the moment I am tabbing my book like crazy and underlining valuable lines that I will refer back to once I finish the book. This is one that I will go over again.

The way the book is written, its as though I am in the room with them and hearing the way things went, being a witness to two amazingly enlightened people making history together.

If I could recommend a book – this would be it. 

I googled the Dalai Lamas daily prayer and I have attached it below.

My take so far –

If we were all focused on understanding how to be a happier version of ourselves, this world truly would be a different place.

Bettering yourself isn’t just for you, its for the people all around you.

Once they see you change to be more positive and have more joy – its contagious, they too will be focused on being a better version of themselves.

 

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Oranges Make Orange Juice

Anyone that knows me well – knows that I love Wayne Dyer.

Today I stumbled across this and it was too good not to share.

From Waynes Blog

I was preparing to speak at an I Can Do It conference and I decided to bring an orange on stage with me as a prop for my lecture. I opened a conversation with a bright young fellow of about twelve who was sitting in the front row.

“If I were to squeeze this orange as hard as I could, what would come out?” I asked him.

He looked at me like I was a little crazy and said, “Juice, of course.”

“Do you think apple juice could come out of it?”

“No!” he laughed.

“What about grapefruit juice?”

“No!”

“What would come out of it?”

“Orange juice, of course.”

“Why? Why when you squeeze an orange does orange juice come out?”

He may have been getting a little exasperated with me at this point. “Well, it’s an orange and that’s what’s inside.”

I nodded. “Let’s assume that this orange isn’t an orange, but it’s you. And someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, says something you don’t like, offends you. And out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, fear. Why? The answer, as our young friend has told us, is because that’s what’s inside.”

It’s one of the great lessons of life.  What comes out when life squeezes you?  When someone hurts or offends you? If anger, pain and fear come out of you, it’s because that’s what’s inside. It doesn’t matter who does the squeezing—your mother, your brother, your children, your boss, the government. If someone says something about you that you don’t like, what comes out of you is what’s inside. And what’s inside is up to you, it’s your choice.

When someone puts the pressure on you and out of you comes anything other than love, it’s because that’s what you’ve allowed to be inside. Once you take away all those negative things you don’t want in your life and replace them with love, you’ll find yourself living a highly functioning life.

Thanks, my young friend, and here’s an orange for you!

Wasn’t that beautiful?!! Hope you enjoyed it as much as I did.

Until next time, lets make it a great day!

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2016 recap- what I’ve learnt 

This year came with many lessons, some hurt like hell…. it was a busy year and I was focused on making it a year of growth and change. And, that. It. was.

I reconnected with activities that kept calling me- reading being one of them. I rarely made time for it but always craved it, I was a good reader earlier in my life and reading always gave me peace, growth and satisfaction. Reading allowed me to leave life for a minute and go on a journey.I finally made the time to read again and my soul thanks me for it. 

A small piece of the old me is alive again.

I learnt this year that you can be yourself and be open, keep it real and be vulnerable and people will tarnish your intentions with their own insecurities. If someone is committed to finding the bad in you… don’t bother trying to show them the good- they are determined not to see it. Walk away. 

I learnt that Peace and time to reflect/ connect with yourself is vital. Remove distractions and allow time to think. Not allowing this time is like driving with no destination in mind- if you stand for nothing, you fall for everything. If you have no goals or priorities that you created for yourself , people will have you building and achieving theirs. 

I’ve learnt that I owe nobody my time. I gave my time away freely in the past and allowed people to dictate entitlement with my time. I will spend my time as I choose. 

I’ve learnt that I love spontaneous moments that create the best memories. I love random road trips and adventures that feel as good as a holiday. I’ve learnt that life is fun when you “live it” and “love it” and don’t just exsist with a to do list of shit that didn’t really have to be done. 

I’ve learnt to go over my to do list and see what is vital and what is a task to make “someone else” happy that they didn’t ask for or really need right now. I’ve learnt to put them on the “another day” list and make time for self love and creating magic moments.

I recently had a “soul day” with someone I cherish …. it was spontaneous and random…. we ran errands but together, we stopped for coffee and lunch, we talked and talked and then talked some more….it was one of the best days of my life so far. We realised that these days are necessary. I learnt we all need soul days.

Listen to your calling. Inside of us, we all have this thing we are drawn to. Mine is helping people and helping them have the best life on their journey….I’ve been able to do it through  coaching , counselling and this blog. Find what your soul is asking you to do… you will find peace there. 

I’ve learnt the ones we love the most can hurt us the most. The words they say can cut deeper than words from any enemy. Protect your peace. Protect your heart.

I learnt that there are people that ask for help or advice just for conversation. They don’t want help or advice – they are comfortable being a victim and making excuses of why they can’t have what they claim they want. It’s an energy sucker and it’s also a massive waste of precious time.

I’ve learnt that giving back is vital. Making a difference in someone’s life by helping them when they need it the most. I often give anonymous gift vouchers to people in need, I need to know that while I’m here on this earth I’m making a difference. I’m not just exsisting and taking- I’m giving.

I’ve learnt there are people that try to find the flaws in everything. Hey, they may be reading this blog right now and pulling it apart…. life is miserable living that way. For your own peace… make it a goal to see the good. Find the gold in each situation. I work on this daily- not all days are successful, but I’m determined to become a master at finding the good in every situation. You can’t love someone if you’re too busy judging them.

Ive learnt that expectation is a perfect way to be miserable. Don’t expect people to act the way you think they should act and don’t expect people to say what you think they should say. Remove expectation. You will find peace there. 

I’ve learnt that words mean nothing… actions mean more. Someone might say kind words but then we get confused when their actions don’t match those words. Actions speak louder than words. Look at their actions.

We are a result of the 5 people we hang around- I’ve learnt to be very selective. We all want love and connection, we all want to love and be loved… don’t sell your soul for it.

I’ve learnt that the hardest thing to do is grieve the loss of someone that is still alive… letting someone go that meant so much because they are too toxic to have around. When I miss them and think of them- I send them love and thank them for the good times, but remind myself why they can’t be in my present. 

I’ve learnt that meditating is one of the best things you can do for yourself. I don’t do it often but each time I do… I feel peace, recharged and free. I need to do more of it. A guided meditation is the way to start. It helps get into it.

I’ve learnt that what I read, watch, discuss, and allow into my mind can make or break me. I stopped watching the real housewives and any “reality tv” as it’s not reality. I don’t listen to the radio much anymore… it’s filled with adds and misguided morals discussed by the hosts. I don’t purchase magazines that give girls eating disorders or convince them that a material possession bring happiness or a false “fairy tale like” picture of life. I’m done with spending money and time in areas that don’t bring me joy and that are creating a world filled with image conscious people looking for this life that isn’t real without hard work and sacrifice.

I’ve learnt that beautiful  is not on the outside. When someone is so kind and their soul radiates through them like beams of light- that’s beautiful.

I’ve learnt that parenting is one of the worlds greatest gifts and also a huge responsibility filled with endless lessons. I’ve learnt that there is no wrong or right. Some people judge and make you feel like you’re not doing a good job, it can make you doubt yourself. Some parenting days are harder than others.  I’ve also learnt that we judge parenting more harshly when we don’t have our own. I judged a lot before I had mine. I thought it was easier than it looked.

I’ve learnt that I feel at peace when I am alone. When I limit my brain input so my mind isn’t racing. I appreciate quiet and time where I rest my body. This is my recharge. This is my gift to my body.

I attended Anthony Robbins Unleash the Power within conference and I had many “aha” moments that changed my life forever. One of the things I learnt was to attend events that help you grow. Events that focus on being the best version of yourself.

I learnt that some people compete with you, you can find yourself in a race you never signed up for. Get out of their race. Competitive people are not true friends. A real friend wants to see you do well even if it exceeds them. Competitiveness is comparisson and comparison is not love.

I’ve learnt that I love researching new things. I’ve learnt to love learning and keep growing.

I’ve learnt that taking care of myself is a major priority. Example- Skin care is just as important as brushing your teeth. We often say we are too busy to make time for ourselves…. but then we hate on the people who do. We call them selfish. I’ve learnt that taking care of yourself is sensible, it’s important, it’s showing yourself love. How can we give love if we can’t even give it to ourselves? Make time for yourself. Look after your body- it’s your vehicle in this life. I find it hard to feel sorry for people who destroy their bodies and then hate on people who look after theirs. Stop hating on others and start loving yourself. I’ve learnt that I love me. I love me a lot.

I’ve learnt that we get people in our life that mean the world to us. We have this bond with them and this connection.  We love them so much and thank God every day for their exsistance. These people are your earth angels. They are there to help you on the hard days and celebrate the good days. I’ve learnt that earth Angels are a blessing. 

I’ve learnt that having less of everything is actually having more. Less possessions give you more clarity, more space, more joy. I’ve learnt that we can feel trapped in our own homes if we have things that don’t serve us anymore. We need to thank the item for the joy it bought in the past… and then give it to good will. Let it serve someone else. Free your space.

I’ve learnt that I can choose to see life whichever way I choose. I can see it as it happens “to me” or “for me”. Saying things happen “to me” makes me a victim, saying they happen “for me” makes me free and happy and a willing receiver of great things. 

I’ve learnt – Choose your words carefully and change the way you look at things. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.Our brain registers what we say as truth, it doesn’t register a joke and truth, what you say you will believe. Stop the negative talk about yourself. 

I’ve learnt to create magic moments and make memories. We write our stories. Let’s delete the chapters that don’t make us feel good and read the ones that do. Let’s go out and create more amazing chapters and make sure you’re holding the pen too.

I’ve learnt that this post is a little long, if you made it this far- thank you. 

This post might be the answer to somebody’s prayers. This post might be the answer someone was looking for or the peace that will set them free. Share it. 

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Until next time, make it a great day. 

Love Ange xxx

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